How To Turn A Girl On.
The art and the mystery of how to turn a girl on starts long before she ever gets to your bed. Indeed, if you haven’t already started the process while you’re talking to her, there’s little chance of getting her there.
For most of us guys, sexual arousal is almost like an emergency, a raging fire that needs to be put out right away. For a woman, sexual arousal starts as a little spark in her mind that gradually spreads into a warm glow throughout her body. She’s not usually in any hurry to put that fire out as she enjoys the sensations building slowly within her.
Far too many guys fail to ignite that first tiny spark of sexual interest in a woman and that’s why they walk away rejected and defeated. For men, our sexual arousal is centered on the genitals, but for women, sexual arousal begins as a mental and emotional response to something we’ve said or done.
For those guys who are only interested in the physical side of sexual arousal, here’s a link where you can get started. For the rest of you who want to discover how to trigger a deeper and more powerful emotional response, keep reading.
I’ve shared this kind of amusing video about what turns girls on below. It’s from the Wing Girls on YouTube. When you watch this video it could be very easy to dismiss the message because it’s somewhat silly and goofy.
Dismissing it though would be a serious mistake. Why? For one thing it’s about what turns girls on from girls themselves. Not from some guy making shit up about what he thinks turns a girl on but from the girls themselves.
Sure the make-up and costumes are silly and the acting is goofy, but you have to be able to look past that and see and hear the deeper message. Those girls are telling you exactly what you need to know if you want to ignite that first spark of sexual interest and desire.
Think of it as you knocking on her door. If you can’t get her to at least crack that door open a little bit in the beginning, then you have absolutely no chance of getting in. These are the things that get her to take notice of you and open that door a little giving you your opportunity.
Watch the video and then I’m going to take the 10 items it talks about and break them down and explain the message in each one.
So what can we take away from this video?
1. You Know Something About The World. Girls are frequently a lot smarter than we men give them credit for. They’ve learned early on though that many men are intimidated by girls with brains so they’ve learned to hide it from us. That’s why a guy who is informed about what is going on in the world and who is interested in more than just the latest video game or what’s on TV will always be able to impress a girl. Try cracking open a book once in awhile, catch up with what is happening around the world, be able to talk about more than just your car or what happened to you in the sixth grade. Girls really are attracted to smart guys.
2. You’re Strong. Girls are hot wired to be attracted to a strong man. This goes all the way back to our early beginnings where the man had to be able to protect his mate from wild creatures, predators and other men. This doesn’t mean you have to have bulging biceps to attract a girl, although that never hurts. But even if you aren’t built like a bodybuilder, you can still project an image of strength just through posture and body language alone. Don’t walk or stand all slumped over, stand straight and alert, send out the subliminal message that you would throw yourself between her and anything that threatened to harm her. There’s almost nothing that will make her hotter.
3. You’re Really Into Something You Like Doing. This shows that you’re more than a one dimensional guy. When you find something you like you’re willing to devote time and effort to it. That you’re committed to working and getting good at it. This subconsciously suggests to the girl that if you were in a committed relationship these same attributes would carry over to that relationship. You would be willing to put forth the effort to really make it work and that you would be devoted to her.
4. You’re Nice To Old People and Kids. If you want to know what a person is really like, watch how they treat people who are subordinate to them. People like waiters, waitresses and bartenders. If they treat them badly and act like a jerk, if they put down and make fun of old people and if they despise children, then that’s what they will be like in a relationship with you. This applies to men and women equally. Don’t be that kind of person and if you are that kind of person and don’t want to change, then just stay in your room and masturbate a lot. The world doesn’t really need any more jerks like you running around in it.
5. You’re Funny. It’s said that if you can get a girl to laugh within the first 15 minutes of meeting her, then you’re in. While girls like a guy who also has a serious side, everyone appreciates a guy who can make them laugh, make anything fun and really liven up any kind of get together. Almost no one likes that person who sucks the life out of a party and brings everyone down. Be fun and spontaneous, be funny and fun to be around.
6. You’re Generous. This doesn’t mean you have to be the kind of guy who throws money around and tries to buy friendship and make people like him. That’s the kind of guy that everyone will take advantage of and when the money disappears so will they. But a girl wants to know that you care more about her than your money and that you think she’s worth spending a little money on. So don’t be a tightwad, just don’t get so carried away that you blow all your money on some crazy spending spree that sends you home broke and alone.
7. You Have A Job You Care About. No one and I mean NO ONE, but especially a girl you’re trying to impress, wants to hear how much you hate your job. If you hate it that much then find something you like and quit that job. If all you do is bitch about it, then it suggests you’re either just too lazy to find something you like or else you’re more interested in bitching than you are about doing something about it. If the subject comes up, and you really don’t like your job, find something interesting about it that you can talk about, or at least be grateful that you have a job and can pay your bills. If you’re one of those guys who are perpetually unemployed then I hope you’re hung like a horse or at least a small pony, because that’s about the only thing you’ll have going for you.
8. You’re Fun To Be Around. I mean really, does anyone, especially a girl, want to hang out with that guy who is always bored, who is never doing anything and who barely has enough ambition to get up and go to the bathroom rather than piss himself? Come on, if your life really is that dull and boring why would you think anyone would want to share it with you? You’re better off just hanging with guys who feel the same way, swilling cheap beer and watching flies mate. It’ll save you the effort of thinking too much or trying to enjoy life and having a good time with the interesting people.
9. You Can Fix Shit. Now this may sound sexist, but girls and guys really are wired differently. While there are some female mechanics, electricians, plumbers etc. out there, most girls simply are not mechanically inclined. So they love it when a guy is able to solve or fix a problem for them. This doesn’t mean you have to be a master mechanic or electrician or anything, but it does pay to know some of the basics. Even if you can’t fix the problem, you need to know who can and who to call to get it taken care of for her. Most girls rightfully know that they’re probably going to get taken advantage of by a professional mechanic or repair man simply because they are a girl. Having a guy help them get the problem taken care of alleviates those fears and makes them feel safe, secure and taken care of, which goes a long ways towards sparking their romantic interest in you.
10. You’re Confident. Probably the number one turn on for a girl. There’s a big difference between being confident and being cocky though and you need to know that difference. Women will always fall for that guy who is quietly confident in himself. Projecting an image of confidence and a secure belief in yourself will trump everything. Knowing that you can handle yourself in any situation, that you’re up to any task and that you don’t need anyone else’s approval to be yourself will spark an immediate interest from every female in the room. That image can be telegraphed by the way you stand, the way you carry yourself even by the way you interact with others. It’s something that is difficult to fake and every woman instinctively knows that.
So there are those 10 items broken down for you. It would be the exceptional man who is expert in all 10 of them, but being able to project just 3 or 4 of these attributes will take you beyond most men’s hopes of being successful with the opposite sex.
I have spoken about body image, body language, subconscious and subliminal messages and projecting an air of confidence above and it pays any man to learn more about these and other advanced techniques, like neuro-linguistics, for turning a woman on. The very best source for this kind of information I have ever found and it is the only source I go to anymore is The Tao of Badass. (you can read more about the Tao of Badass here) It is full of advanced techniques and information that most guys are clueless about. Even mastering only a tiny fraction of what it has to teach will put you well above and beyond the abilities of most guys when it comes to the art of seducing women. You’ll be the guy in the room that they all envy and fear. Those other guys will be begging you to tell them how you do it.
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